Be Change

I totally get how paying a compliment will make us feel better – us as the ones paying the compliment. And I also get how the assumption comes about that the recipient will feel better, too. After all, we are full of good intentions – and intend to “spread the love and positivity”.

How do we make sure that the recipient will indeed feel the love - and not resentment, anger or worse? Let's find out!

With so much time, energy, and yes, money spent on coaching - how you can you make sure that you’ll make the most of it?

Here’s my five key success factors that you can check BEFORE starting for the best possible impact.

It’s easier to reflect on choices, dreams, and your daily life when we have the emotional and mental bandwidth to do so. Which is why it might be preferable doing it at a time when life does slow down and gives a lot of both small and big opportunities to recharge at the same time.

I propose a summer of coaching!

The eternal question – does it take more effort to resist change or to embrace change? Apart from the fact that I personally think change is exciting, I also think that energy should be invested wisely. And what better way of doing so than embracing new skills while learning from the past, not living it?

Habits - the beasts that seem to sabotage our lives… They can make life both easy and miserable. Change seams insurmountable? A quick reality check of the average expectations (and promises out there) and what that means for you.

Finding a mentor and working with them is a great way of growing personally and professionally. You are benefitting from another person’s experience and expertise, get their insight and advice, and basically have a sounding board for your ideas. What can you expect?

“But they didn’t mean it that” – hands down one of the most frustrating reactions by third parties when you are struggling with what feels very toxic to you. I don’t blame you if you are NOT feeling seen. Because you aren’t. Neither by the person you’re frustrated about nor by the one you are talking to. Let’s have a look.

I said earlier and I stick to what I said: change is about dreams (and some other things, too, ok ok). And yet, dreams seem to make us uncomfortable as adults. Why is that, how can we overcome this and how do our dreams lead to change?

How can you resist a book that tells you about being an athlete by pointing out you are in fact reading that book so there has to be at least part athlete in you? Spoiler alert - I couldn’t…

Conscious change implies being aware of where you’re at. The “4-stages-of-competence”-model supports by indicating what needs to happen through learning. For an individual, learning and change will likely go hand in hand, while for a team, the implications are less clear-cut, especially when experts become involved.

Planning change, yes or no? The simple question that triggers such an ambivalent answer. In a nutshell: YES to planning the PARAMETERS of change and NO to planning the OUTCOME of change. Why? Read on…

What do you do when feedback and advice are not only unsolicited but also mostly beneficial to the person giving said advice. How do you filter, what do you take to heart? I’m talking about your choices and options.

Coaching Strategy: I am convinced it’s time to rethink the approach to strategy. I am also confident that the coaching approach is a viable one in this case too, and might increase communication, efficiency, and implementation.

Is developing a vision and a goal the same as Simon Sinkens “Start with WHY” and “Find your WHY”? Personally, I think that’s only part of the game and not necessarily helpful in all situations. Here’s why.

Three snippets about me and some more background info. In case you’re wondering what I will be bringing to the table and who that person is that’s going to sit with you…

True or false?: our belief systems act as internalised signposts. And the same as those in real life, some lead us to nowhere, some are glaring warmings, and some point out amazing shortcuts to success. Which is which, and how do we get more of supportive ones?

If it looks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, it might be a duck. Dealing with toxic behaviour does not need a diagnosis, but courage, know how, energy, and tools.

Change is about a lot of things: letting go and learning new things. It’s about dreaming and creativity and planning your next steps. It’s about not giving up, even if the world interferes.

A book that has changed my running world: “The Happy Runner” by David Roche and Megan Roche, MD. On the why of your running, the enthusiasm, the longterm motivation, plus some training principles to round it all off.

Being confronted with toxic behaviour does not equal being a victim. Find powerful ways of reacting to narcissism and toxic behaviour.

Habits - the beasts that seem to sabotage our lives… They can make life both easy and miserable. And possibly at the same time. Why?

Do you feel like you don’t like plans - or even worse, goals, visions, and strategies? Maybe the issue is not so much the planning thing, but rather the level of detail that you project into tomorrow as well as a more distant future? Let’s have a look!